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A long winter

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Out and About

Eastern WA

We ran away this weekend.   It was very long overdue.  Winter is hard here for us with the very limited light (although I easily admit that since it has been “very dry” in Western Washington terms, I’ve enjoyed it more).  This winter has been worse.  

In December a colleague of mine – my age, married with three kids (6th grade and 3rd) – was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer just before Christmas Break.  It blew my mind.  As someone who is well-connected in our community through his coaching, teaching, university studies, growing up nearby, etc – the hundreds – and literally thousands of people who have come forward to offer support for he and his family is amazing.  There are little pieces we all contribute – mostly watching over the hundreds of students at school who have had – and are having – a very difficult time with this.  My friends at work – his coaching buddies for years through baseball and football – are complete wrecks.   

And then another colleague (my age) committed suicide on the last day of February.  

I have been speechless and riddled with anxiety, grief, tears, and funny memories of my very sassy friend who killed himself and well… speechless.  

He leaves behind two boys (one 6th grader, and the other in elementary school) who adored him.  He was an excellent father.  A hilarious, passionate colleague – and beyond that – a troubled soul who struggled his whole life with depression.

And then winter dragged on.  The rain came back.  The clocks all changed.  And the stress of the year began to eat at me.

Frequently, my little band of 3 and I find ourselves on day trips or weekend “adventures”.  In the winter, with work, these “adventures” can be as exciting as filling the freezer by stocking up at Costco.  Yes, we are that exciting.   This March, even the simple pleasures of watching a movie together could not ease the pains of loss.  We thought about traveling for a few days to get away to places we have enjoyed in the past… but you know what?

I just didn’t want to work that hard.

I didn’t want to have to research/look-up everything, call restaurants, plan our adventures by a map with not only gluten-free but kid-friendly options nearby.    I just didn’t.  I don’t mind that traveling may not only sometimes be a bit more costly (because swinging through the random coffee shop or sandwich shop will not always produce a gluten-free option at a low-cost).    That’s just the name of the game.

But this time around, I really just wanted to relax.  With my kids.  And no cell phones, televisions, pesky to-do lists, mail to sort, email to answer, etc  And I certainly didn’t want to spend my vacation time with my nose in my cell phone trying to find a gluten-free option for dinner as we strolled through our afternoon.  (Hey…it’s been known to happen when we just get in the car and go!)

 

God's Eyes

 

I remember this little mountain retreat place that I had been to 8 years ago.  It is a renovated mountain camp – much like one you may have been to as a kid – but with updated furnishings, towel warmers in the bathroom, trails between “cabins” (duplex cabin-esque units) and random Chihuly blown glass art sculptures.  Oh yes, and an outdoor bar with its own waterfall.  It definitely feels like someone who wanted to go “camping” but well… not really.  

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In other words, it sounded perfect.  We could unplug.  We could explore.  The kids could be outside.  And the weather was 68-72F during the day with sunshine and a 32F cold (perfect for sleeping) at night.  My kind of place. :D

The best part?  I didn’t have to even think about dinner nor brunch.  Once we made our reservations, I let them know that I had Celiac and would need a gluten-free meal option.

HA!  An option!  The restaurant (on site) was a gluten-free haven.  Oh – and the majority of the food served was locally grown.   It was great – for every meal (buffet style) we ate there, I could eat all entrée mains (except one each meal), they had fresh gluten-free bread options for the asking, gluten-free dessert options (gf chocolate cake, white chocolate creme brulee, etc), all gluten-free salad dressings, all gluten-free salad options separated from the non-gf items in the salad bar, etc.  Honestly.  There was too much food.  (Don’t worry, we survived that disappointment…LOL)

In fact, there was so much available to me that I couldn’t help but find myself mystified why the two entrees (two different meals) that I could NOT eat were NOT made gluten-free as well. It would have been so easy to do.  (For the record, it was a pork rack roast and the next day, a ham.)  I mean really.  Could they not use tamari?

AND FINALLY, my Love and I laughed.  

Seriously – how many times have we traveled together when the only safe option for me were some plain leafy greens or something less than joyful for a food-lover like me?  And here I was, in a buffet-style restaurant with so many gluten-free options that my brain focused on what I could NOT have?!

We began to discuss how often in life we condition ourselves to see that we are trained to see.  In work.  With kids.  With each other.  With my Celiac Disease.  Surrounded by the food that the servers/chefs could easily answer the gluten-free question for me and there I was, stuck on that stinking rack roast.  

And there I have been all March.  Stuck on the loss of my colleague and the impending loss of another.

Walk OnEveryday my little people and I sing loudly (and out of tune) together in the car.  They always request their favorites.  I rarely am one to quote song lyrics, but their latest song has caught my mind.  The song is called “Carry On” by the group FUN.  The lyrics (in part) say this:

…If you’re lost and alone
Or you’re sinking like a stone
Carry on
May your past be the sound
Of your feet upon the ground
Carry on…

I’m sure I will have my damn-it, it’s not-gluten-free moments again.

I know I will continue to grieve the loss of my friends.

And I also know that the sun will shine, my kids will keep laughing, and we will all carry on.  There are many worse things in this world that having to avoid gluten.  I have never thought it was the end of my world.  I guess I just forgot to look up at the path ahead of me sometimes to see those little feet marching on.  So please forgive my latest absence.  I’ve been busy bringing my soul back from the depths of grief and setting my eyes on those little feet in the picture.

May your Spring be bringing you out of a dark winter with Love as well – 

~Kate

 

 

Gluten Free: Eating out

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Korean BBQ

Have you ever been to a Korean BBQ?  The picture above shows some of my delicious dinner.  Grilled beef and a green onion and vinegar/chili dressing salad all piled high on to a piece of leaf lettuce.  Fold it all up like a leafy burrito, and wah-lah.  Korean BBQ dinner.  (See the veg?  Yes, I had some grilled veggies (sweet potatoes, zucchini, carrots, onions, etc) as well!)

And all of this?
Eating OUTside of my home!
(Hooray for no dishes!!)

About a year ago, my love and I found this great all-you-can-eat Korean BBQ.  When we entered the first time, I was certain that my eating would be relegated to the salad bar.. .and then only some of it.  However, my love was HUNGRY for meat.  So I bravely entered with an open mind and a thankful heart/stomach as I really wasn’t really hungry at all.

And man, was I surprised!  Not only did the BBQ have a decent salad bar and sushi bar (fresh fruits, salads, GF curried rice noodle dishes, rice, veggies, potato salads, etc (all gluten-free, I asked). but when my Love came back from the meat selections he had a HUGE grin on his face.  He told me that some of the meat options were NOT marinated at all with any types of soy or gluten containing ingredients.  WAHOO!

And cross contact issues?  Well, eating out *always* is always tricky.  However, I found the Korean BBQ to be easier than most.  Why?  Well, because you cook your own food at the table!  Each table has a grill inset into the center.  And each set of customers has an fresh grill (top, based, grill) when they sit down.  Wahoo!

Now before you head out to find your own gluten-free Korean BBQ,  Here are a few words of caution:

  • MANY of the BBQ meats are marinated in a mixture that includes NON gluten-free soy sauce.  DO NOT eat those meats.
  • Build a relationship with the owners and eat when they are NOT busy.  Most Korean establishments are NOT accustomed to accommodating food issues, so be kind.  Explain the foods you must avoid – point out the soy sauce and the miso are particular problems.  This will help them eliminate the foods they have that you cannot eat.
  • The brown bean & miso mixture that is used on the leaf wraps is NOT gluten free.  It contains wheat (from the soy sauce) and some brands add wheat flour to thicken it.  (I can’t figure that out, really, since the beans are thick enough…. but hey… what do I know…. LOL)
  • If your gluten-eating family is going to use the grill too, grill your food items FIRST before they use it.  Tell them that their patience will pay off.  After all, you will eat first, but after that?  They can eat until their heart’s delight or their stomachs implode.  Whichever comes first.

I *know* that Asian restaurants are challenging.  I *KNOW* that it makes people anxious.  However, eight years ago when I began this lovely GF lifestyle, I began to limit my outings with friends.  Eating out wasn’t something I felt confident doing any more.  Then slowly I began to build up to eating salads with everyone while they dined on pastas or pizzas or Chinese foods, etc.  It was all just too much and too isolating.  Since those days, I have attempted to push the limits and find the courage to stand up for myself at restaurants.  And I’ve learned a few restaurant tricks that have helped.

I thought now that school is in session (my life has once again turned into 14 hour work days), it would be the perfect time to talk about eating out and staying gluten free.  Sure, I order salads a lot.  but now I order them because that is what I WANT to eat, rather than that is the only thing on the menu that I CAN eat.  Big difference in the dining-mood, that’s for sure.

Here are a few of the tips/tricks that I have, but really I’m writing to learn MORE MORE MORE!
What are your tips? tricks?  favorite meals outside of the home?

  1. Call ahead when and if you can.  Talk to the manager about your needs.  Don’t be high maintenance/demanding, but genuine about the need for utmost care.  Request several menu options – that way if you get there and you really don’t want to eat that *one* thing, you don’t have to.  You have options.
  2. Don’t expect wait staff, managers, etc to know what you are talking about when you mention gluten-free.  More than once I’ve had a waiter (heck – twice it was the CHEF!) tell me that I should order the risotto because it has rice gluten.  Um.  yea.  No. You CAN order the risotto IF they are NOT adding anything with gluten IN.  Rice gluten?  That’s okay.  (And you may have to tell them that you can eat potatoes too.   That one always shocks me.)
  3. Be sure to ask what the garnishes are on the dish.  Not just the crouton factor either.  More than once I’ve order steamed veggies and have had them served on toast.  (?!?!?!?!)  And that random decoration on my plate of swirled unknown sauce?  Thank you, no thank you.  (I hate it when they shake a billion pieces of parsley all OVER the plate edges and foods too.  While gluten-free, it’s obnoxious to be unable to touch the plate (or breathe near it) for fear of the parsley-dust bowl incident.)
  4. Did you order a salad and it came with croutons?  BEFORE you send it back, put a sugar packet or some piece of your napkin under the lettuce leaves.  If it’s still there when the salad comes back?  Bust them for NOT giving you a new salad.  They’ve just picked off the evidence, but we all know that it doesn’t have to be a visible crumb that will get us.
  5. Learn your culinary terms and sauce names.  If you are well educated about how sauces are prepared or  how your food is being made, you can easily predict where the cross contact or full on contamination of your food may fall.  Ask the wait staff (or manager) clarifying questions and HELP THEM figure out how to serve you.  For example, let them know that you can eat a piece of grilled, fresh chicken breast with salt/pepper on your salad but that they MUST clean the grill section and prep area FIRST before placing your food items them.
  6. Gently tell them that gluten is not a germ.  You can’t kill it, disinfect it, etc and it *IS* natural.  Therefore statements like “all natural” or “natural flavorings” cause you concern.  (More than once I’ve had to tell someone that “Yes, wheat is a natural grain, right?”).  Let them know that their seasoning shakes may not be okay for you, but surely they have salt/pepper in the kitchen, right?
  7. I tend to stick to restaurants where fish or meats are served grilled or steamed.  I know I’m usually safe with grilled salmon (or planked, which is how I really like it and how it is very likely to be made out here in the PNW) versus places that just sells burgers and fries.  Not only is it harder to eat at the burger/french fry joint… but really now, my thighs thank me for avoiding the french fries too.
  8. Use gluten free dining resources like the Triumph Dining books and cards, especially if this is (a) all new to you, (b) you don’t feel like you have a great grasp on the culinary terms or prep methods, (c) your not a cook and wouldn’t know where to start helping them figure out alternatives or (d) you loathe the idea of speaking up for yourself in a restaurant for fear of being painted as the pushy one and having your coffee.. ummm… “altered”

I know I’m missing some things here.  LOL.
This is what I get for not preplanning this post better.  (Sorry guys!)
What about you?  What are your top eating out tips?
Happy Fall and Busy Days, All!
-Kate
PS.  I’ll be back soon with an AWESOME new cookbook (GF and CF!) review as well as a low-fat/no-fat and low-calories blueberry muffin recipe too.  We are busy finishing up our home study and getting the visa paperwork completed.  (Not to mention finally replacing our dishwasher that died 3 years ago… ahem.)  Life is busy – but good  – here.  What about you?